You're both making eyes at each other; they're hot, you're hot, but when they come over to talk to you, you've got nothing to say because all you can think of is how you want to rip their clothes off.
Welcome to sexual tension.
Sexual tension is one of those things that is equally as exciting as it is exhausting. It's why I have a new crush every 5 minutes and why my past relationships failed.
But we will get to that soon.
The excitement of sexual tension is unmatched. It's the catalyst for who will appear in your before-bed daydreams and leads to absolutely fire group chat conversations.
Enter the "hey babe, guess who I ran into" followed by “he’s not hot, but there is something really hot about him" texts.
It's something that I have been experiencing a lot of lately.
I don't have time to get into it, but as they say, queens, there is a reason a season and a lifetime for everything and the season right now is giving massive sexual tension vibes.
And since I'm a girl of theory - and astrology, I tried to find some Mercury Retrograde type answers for why I'm feeling the sexy vibes with a few lads lately and accidentally ran into some non-astrological but very scientific research that explains what it actually is and why we experience it.
Turns out it's a pretty simple explanation.
Sexual tension is your brain's way of telling you that the person making you imagine the dirtiest of dirty situations is there for a good time and not a long time.
The problem is, sometimes the good time is so good, they end up there for a long time.
And that isn't really the vibe, so here is everything you need to know about sexual tension, so you don't mistake it for a crush and end up dating them purely because of the excellent bumpy cuddles.
The way you feel:
You know it's sexual tension when the minute you're close to the person, all you can feel is sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach, a rapid heart rate and slightly shaky hands.
Yes, it is similar to drinking three coffees, but it's different, trust me.
The way you act:
Now this one? This will get you into trouble, especially if there are other people around.
Prepare to act like a lusty teen because when you feel sexy vibes with someone, you'll probably have an overwhelming urge to giggle and smile whenever they speak.
You're def going to blush when you hold eye contact for more than two seconds, not to mention the desire to touch their arm while you're talking to them.
And, of course, some dangerous flirting.
The way you talk to each other:
Sexual tension isn't always reciprocated, but when it is, you'll know by the way you two chat.
I saw a tweet that said, "Sexual tension is just when two hot people have nothing to say to each other", and queens, I'm not going to lie. It was like the world suddenly made sense.
When you're talking to someone you know would be an absolute top-tier root, it's difficult to come up with things to say because the blood is not rushing to your brain.
It's rushing between your thighs.
So the chat might be a bit awks, but there is also a mad amount of flirting, maybe some teasing, some NSFW comments and of course, the unspoken desires that can only be said with the eyes.
Cue the 'I'm undressing you with my eyes’ moment.
So now what?
Basically, you've got two choices, and it mostly comes down to risk versus reward.
E.g. consider your relationship status, their relationship status, your connection, and the situation.
Sexual tension is a natural bodily reaction and doesn’t have to be acted on. It can just be a fantasy, and sometimes it's best left that way.
But if you want to pursue it and get the vibe, they do as well; go with the flow, enjoy the flirty banter and remember, sexual tension is (mostly) for a good time and not a long time.
Happy vibes always,
- By Lillie Rohan.