For many, the initial thought of being tied up during sexy time is quite peculiar. How are you meant to enjoy yourself when you’re in knots? All we have to say is don’t knock it ‘till you try it.
Bondage is the perfect way to spice things up with your partner in the bedroom, especially if things are starting to get a little dull. And it’s not as twisted and uncomfortable as you might think. In fact, getting down and dirty with bondage rope can be an extremely pleasurable experience.
Treat this article as your bondage how-to guide. We’ll tie up any loose ends or questions you may have, so you can get right down to it.
What is Bondage?
Bondage is a consensual practice within the BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) culture, and it involves one partner restraining or immobilising the another. There are a variety of different tools and materials that you can get creative with such as ropes, handcuffs, belts, or even specialised bondage equipment. The primary aim of bondage is to enhance the erotic experience and intensify sensations for both participants.
Communication and trust are fundamental in bondage, as it requires clear consent and boundaries to ensure that all parties feel safe and comfortable. Many people find the power dynamics and vulnerability inherent in bondage highly arousing and enjoy the sense of surrender or control it provides, depending on their role in the activity. Bondage can be a profound way for individuals or couples to explore their desires, strengthen their emotional connection, and experiment with different levels of physical restraint in a safe and consensual manner. It’s one of many ways that you can visit O town, and it’s actually quite popular.
How Can I Learn About Bondage Positions?
If you want to learn about how to tie bondage ropes or all the different positions you can try, there are plenty of ways you can do so – other than watching 50 Shades of Grey.
Sex Positions Book
There’s nothing quite like an adult book when it comes to setting the mood (or in this case, teaching you the ropes about bondage). These books offer knowledge on how to start out with BDSM and how to tie bondage ropes, amongst other things. They also offer a plethora of different positions for you and your partner to get into during your spicy time.
Our Girls Guide to Getting Off is a comprehensive guide to all things pleasure. It covers getting to know your vulva and many, many different positions you can try both solo and with a partner. No matter what you’re looking to try – positions you may never have heard of or some that involve rope or handcuffs – our guide contains it ALL. Seriously, you won’t be leaving any page unturned.
Sexologists
There are men, women, and non-binary people out there who are tearing down the walls that made sex such a taboo topic. Sexologists are working hard to educate the wider public on all things sex and pleasure related, and we’re out here cheering them on! There are many who openly share their wealth of knowledge on social media, so you can get sex education while you scroll.
Word of Mouth
Never doubt the power of word of mouth. Now, we’re not advising you to strike up a BDSM-related conversation with a random stranger. Start off with your friendship circle. If you have an open, there’s-no-such-thing-as-TMI relationship, a conversation is a great way to learn about topics you haven’t yet explored from people you trust. And if you’re thinking, “there’s no way my friends are into that stuff,” try them! They may be more freaky than you think.
What Do I Need For Bondage?
There are quite a few different things you can use for bondage. As long as it restrains your movement, it’ll work. Feel free to get creative, but a lot of the go-to essentials for this kink include:
- Bondage rope
- Handcuffs
- Belts
- Blindfolds
Can I Do Bondage on My Own?
Engaging in bondage activities on your own, also known as self-bondage, is possible, but it’s a little tricky to tie yourself in knots. With a little practice, however, you’ll be able to tie yourself up like a pro and go to town with a vibrator.
However, you need to factor in safety, especially since you’ll be on your own. Always make sure that it’s possible to get out of your bind, and never restrain yourself in positions that restrict blood flow or breathing.
What Sex Toys Can I Use When Doing Bondage With My Partner?
You can use any vibe you please to get off while you’re tied up. Whether you pick Missy, Tiff or Polly, you’re guaranteed a wild time either way! Make sure your partner puts plenty of lube so you don’t experience any discomfort.
Ready to be restrained? Shop our Girls Guide to Getting Off and get started! If you have any questions about our products, feel free to get in touch with our team.